Insights and Reflections

The pressures we face are often unique to each of us. Diabetes, poor background, epilepsy, neglectful parents, introversion.. they all play a role in shaping our lifestyles and behaviour. Sometimes the feeling of isolation can overwhelm us to the point where we cannot recognise the light showing us the way out. We're often at a loss of how to overcome these obstacles and challenges. Many times, I'm sure, after we've pulled through a particularly rough patch, we believe that we'll be stronger ...

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At the moment there's a huge drive towards skilling the masses. It's even been referred to as training the 'intellectually disabled'. Now I'm hardly one to get involved in this messy business but this touches on my role as a life coach in this South African cultural advancement. From government funding to NGO sponsorship, the lack of skilled artisans has hardly gone unnoticed. Why it's coming up in the media at this point might be particularly relevant what with all the international scrutiny...
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Somehow, throughout all the times we're presented with choices, we're never sure of how much control we really have. I mean, did we choose what we prefer, did we choose that preference for one thing over another, did we decide on that method that allows us to discriminate one thing from another as better or worse? How far does our power extend? If you look at it from the outside, you're the one making a choice. However, have you ever thought about what framework you're using to make that choi...
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The feeling of being in the right place at the right time doesn't come around all that often for most people, even those actually focused on personal development. So we're stumbling along until things become clear, till they make sense. We keep going forwards or backwards, however, looking for the next big thing. In the meantime we're stuck feeling our feelings, thinking out thoughts and going about our routines.

You can call it autopilot, habit, unconsciousness, but there's this way we go abo...
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SHOUT SCREAM BREAK STUFF - and you might feel better.
sulk withdraw cry - and maybe it'll pass
Decide Commit Follow Through - and things will actually happen

Of all the reactions we have to life, even we're unpredictable to ourselves. We want this, that, everything, nothing, hell who knows. Still, we want things to change. Good things must be great, bad things must be better, strawberry should have been vanilla. Will we never cease to argue with ourselves when we get what we want but find that w...
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Often we wonder if we're taking things too far, but what about when we're not taking them far enough? Much like giving up prematurely or resigning yourself to a predetermined fate, not taking another step forward often leads us back to where we started in the first place.

So what am I getting at here? The challenges I've been through lately have forced me to face my methods and I've had to confront the ways that no longer work for me. Change comes in many forms, and in this case I'm having to ...
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Trust is like faith - an invisible force that can bind or break, create or destroy. Trusting others is both a bold leap forward and a carefully calculated risk. Trusting yourself is quite different in terms of the experience. The outcome of misplaced trust in others is much the same level of disappointment as misplaced trust in yourself, however the process of arriving at the choice to trust yourself is different to that of trusting others.

Trusting others is a choice based on your perspective...
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One beautiful lesson I am learning now is the way in which time unfolds. Although patience has always been on my side, there is another aspect to time which is challenging me now. That aspect is space, atmosphere, experience. Patience allows me to wait, to watch and to observe. This new aspect is endurance - surviving and then thriving throughout the process of change. My patience is being taken to a new level where I am engaging and questioning, testing and experimenting with the changes hap...
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As we all know, change takes work. It is full of tough challenges and difficult emotions. It is truly a test of character, of endurance and determination. Personal development doesn't come easily. Many of us give up before we get there, each of us gives up on something along the way. There are costs involved in gaining ground, and these costs are up to you to choose.

If you want to gain financial success, you give up on frivolous spending. This may mean giving up on the belief that spending mo...
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