Somehow, throughout all the times we're presented with choices, we're never sure of how much control we really have. I mean, did we choose what we prefer, did we choose that preference for one thing over another, did we decide on that method that allows us to discriminate one thing from another as better or worse? How far does our power extend? If you look at it from the outside, you're the one making a choice. However, have you ever thought about what framework you're using to make that choice? Have you carefully considered that your preferences are based on your values and priorities, thereby bad choices are a reflection of mismatched or simply bad values and priorities?

Your inclinations towards certain things really say a lot about who you are. Who really wants to face that they screw their own lives up? I'd rather stick with my success stories, as many of us prefer. The trouble with facing your choices means you've got to face all the stuff leading up to those choices. It can be such an unpleasant experience that we can end up rejecting the whole notion of having free will altogether.

So how do you face a situation which has an automatic off-switch triggered when things get too real? Well it's a fear response, so recognising that might help. Then changing your belief about fear - that it's not a doomsday explosion, rather it's a source of power that you can use to fuel yourself into better situations. How else can you manage such an illogical force if you don't direct it at something positive?