Trusting Yourself
Posted by Sarah Mills on Monday, September 13, 2010
Under: Me You Us
Trust is like faith - an invisible force that can bind or break, create or destroy. Trusting others is both a bold leap forward and a carefully calculated risk. Trusting yourself is quite different in terms of the experience. The outcome of misplaced trust in others is much the same level of disappointment as misplaced trust in yourself, however the process of arriving at the choice to trust yourself is different to that of trusting others.
Trusting others is a choice based on your perspective of them, and sure enough trusting yourself is a choice based on your perspective of yourself. The difference between trusting others and trusting yourself, is that in trusting others, you have an external reference point signifying a difference between your values and the values of the person who you placed trust in. Trusting yourself, there is no external reference point, and often you're the only witness to your broken trust.
The process of placing trust in someone comes from your sense of their reliability, proven in various instances over a period of time. Placing trust in yourself stems from this same process, however becoming aware of your own reliability is a much more complicated task. Often we set our goals so high, and so many, that we don't meet our own expectations more often than we do. In reality we may be highly functional, but with our brains being more active than our bodies, we perceive things faster than we can carry them out. Thus the potential we perceive isn't realistically achievable.
Trusting yourself comes from a keen sense of awareness of your limitations, so that you can practically count on yourself in ways that you can prove your trustworthiness to yourself. Banking on impractical methods of building self trust will naturally lead to disappointment and frustration. Knowing what you can't do, will allow you the freedom to discover all your strengths.
The benefit of building self trust is that you have the resource of strength to draw on, as well as a structure from which to construct any framework you need for personal development.
Trusting others is a choice based on your perspective of them, and sure enough trusting yourself is a choice based on your perspective of yourself. The difference between trusting others and trusting yourself, is that in trusting others, you have an external reference point signifying a difference between your values and the values of the person who you placed trust in. Trusting yourself, there is no external reference point, and often you're the only witness to your broken trust.
The process of placing trust in someone comes from your sense of their reliability, proven in various instances over a period of time. Placing trust in yourself stems from this same process, however becoming aware of your own reliability is a much more complicated task. Often we set our goals so high, and so many, that we don't meet our own expectations more often than we do. In reality we may be highly functional, but with our brains being more active than our bodies, we perceive things faster than we can carry them out. Thus the potential we perceive isn't realistically achievable.
Trusting yourself comes from a keen sense of awareness of your limitations, so that you can practically count on yourself in ways that you can prove your trustworthiness to yourself. Banking on impractical methods of building self trust will naturally lead to disappointment and frustration. Knowing what you can't do, will allow you the freedom to discover all your strengths.
The benefit of building self trust is that you have the resource of strength to draw on, as well as a structure from which to construct any framework you need for personal development.
In : Me You Us