The Next Step
Posted by Sarah Mills on Monday, September 20, 2010
Under: Looking Ahead
Often we wonder if we're taking things too far, but what about when we're not taking them far enough? Much like giving up prematurely or resigning yourself to a predetermined fate, not taking another step forward often leads us back to where we started in the first place.
So what am I getting at here? The challenges I've been through lately have forced me to face my methods and I've had to confront the ways that no longer work for me. Change comes in many forms, and in this case I'm having to change the way in which I implement change in my life.
For a coach, this is quite fundamental. It affects my whole perspective and process of personal growth. For a person, it feels like a whole pile of drama is attacking me. What's really happening is that my defense mechanisms are being triggered by this investigation into what isn't working for me. It turns out that I'm the one not working for me, my beliefs and attitude are creating consequences to my actions that weren't planned for.
My ego is freaking out, partly taking the blame, partly projecting responsibility onto other things. My brain has no idea what to do because 2+2=@ at the moment. My physical being is taking all the stress and churning it around inside. My emotions are doing back-flips while rollercoastering in a tumble-dryer.
All this tells me is that whatever I'm doing, is not working, and whatever I'm not doing doesn't help either. Thus I've had to grow my awareness outside of this situation in order to get a handle on the beginning and end of this cycle. It comes down to my perspective, the very thing I am using as a reference point in this situation, is the cause of my confusion. I am looking through tainted glasses, holding onto a moving anchor, believing in an illusion.
Realizing this has only been the first step. What is the next one? Just like identifying a problem, next you identify possible solutions and evaluate them to determine which is best. My next step will be to shift my perspective in such a way that I am able to crystallize the flaws in my equation, thus allowing myself to reshape those flaws into opportunities for growth and renewal.
So what am I getting at here? The challenges I've been through lately have forced me to face my methods and I've had to confront the ways that no longer work for me. Change comes in many forms, and in this case I'm having to change the way in which I implement change in my life.
For a coach, this is quite fundamental. It affects my whole perspective and process of personal growth. For a person, it feels like a whole pile of drama is attacking me. What's really happening is that my defense mechanisms are being triggered by this investigation into what isn't working for me. It turns out that I'm the one not working for me, my beliefs and attitude are creating consequences to my actions that weren't planned for.
My ego is freaking out, partly taking the blame, partly projecting responsibility onto other things. My brain has no idea what to do because 2+2=@ at the moment. My physical being is taking all the stress and churning it around inside. My emotions are doing back-flips while rollercoastering in a tumble-dryer.
All this tells me is that whatever I'm doing, is not working, and whatever I'm not doing doesn't help either. Thus I've had to grow my awareness outside of this situation in order to get a handle on the beginning and end of this cycle. It comes down to my perspective, the very thing I am using as a reference point in this situation, is the cause of my confusion. I am looking through tainted glasses, holding onto a moving anchor, believing in an illusion.
Realizing this has only been the first step. What is the next one? Just like identifying a problem, next you identify possible solutions and evaluate them to determine which is best. My next step will be to shift my perspective in such a way that I am able to crystallize the flaws in my equation, thus allowing myself to reshape those flaws into opportunities for growth and renewal.
In : Looking Ahead