Stand your ground
Posted by Sarah Mills on Thursday, July 29, 2010
Under: Looking Ahead
As we all know, change takes work. It is full of tough challenges and difficult emotions. It is truly a test of character, of endurance and determination. Personal development doesn't come easily. Many of us give up before we get there, each of us gives up on something along the way. There are costs involved in gaining ground, and these costs are up to you to choose.
If you want to gain financial success, you give up on frivolous spending. This may mean giving up on the belief that spending money on others is good. You may need to keep it for yourself in the short term so that in the long term you can spend money on more people, with longer and better consequences for all of you.
Often when we're looking to gain something of value, we believe that we have to give up something that is just as valuable and necessary to us. What we forget is that the change we want requires us to give up on what we don't want anymore. You want a respectful, healthy relationship, so you give up on things like self-disrespect and unhealthy thoughts. You must respect yourself to be respected by others.
However you've ended up not needing certain things in your life that no longer work for you, the knowledge you gain from accepting this change carries you forward. All things good come from a place of lack. You fill those needs in your life with things that you hope will carry you to where you want to be.
The real question is what are you filling yourself with? Are you stocking up on temporary, momentary pleasures and rewards, or are you building the foundation for something great to come along? Have you focused on drawing in success or have you focused on drawing in lasting fulfillment?
The quality of your life speaks about the quality of the care you give, to yourself and others. When you give up, you give away your chance at moving forward closer to your goal. There is no such thing as failure, there are only numerous paths. The choices you make about who you are along that path, shape who you will end up being when you reach the end. Think about what you're choosing now, that is creating and reinforcing your current situation. Then ask yourself, "Is this helping me or is this holding me back?" Then see the lesson you are learning and use it to construct your current self that will carry you forward.
If you want to gain financial success, you give up on frivolous spending. This may mean giving up on the belief that spending money on others is good. You may need to keep it for yourself in the short term so that in the long term you can spend money on more people, with longer and better consequences for all of you.
Often when we're looking to gain something of value, we believe that we have to give up something that is just as valuable and necessary to us. What we forget is that the change we want requires us to give up on what we don't want anymore. You want a respectful, healthy relationship, so you give up on things like self-disrespect and unhealthy thoughts. You must respect yourself to be respected by others.
However you've ended up not needing certain things in your life that no longer work for you, the knowledge you gain from accepting this change carries you forward. All things good come from a place of lack. You fill those needs in your life with things that you hope will carry you to where you want to be.
The real question is what are you filling yourself with? Are you stocking up on temporary, momentary pleasures and rewards, or are you building the foundation for something great to come along? Have you focused on drawing in success or have you focused on drawing in lasting fulfillment?
The quality of your life speaks about the quality of the care you give, to yourself and others. When you give up, you give away your chance at moving forward closer to your goal. There is no such thing as failure, there are only numerous paths. The choices you make about who you are along that path, shape who you will end up being when you reach the end. Think about what you're choosing now, that is creating and reinforcing your current situation. Then ask yourself, "Is this helping me or is this holding me back?" Then see the lesson you are learning and use it to construct your current self that will carry you forward.
In : Looking Ahead