I hope for your sake you you're alive, thriving in fact! Life isn't much fun when all you can do is survive. We can surprise ourselves with what we can handle when it comes down to it, but mostly there's always something to complain about. An interesting fact about our perspectives is that we often look to others as the cause of our problems. The blame falls on others easier than it does on ourselves. We never want to see ourselves as failures or disappointments. When this happens we can get caught in a loop of hating our lives.

Often we're taught to take responsibility, to go with the flow or to try harder. I find this advice, although intended to create positive motivations, can stem from a very negative sense of us being wrong, being inadequate. Often when we make a mistake we're not acknowledged for how hard we tried in the first place. We end up neglecting ourselves and the positivity we put into the situation, even if it ended unsatisfactorily.

What would you do to help someone learn from their mistakes? Sit back, laugh, scorn them, feel more powerful than them? Point out the mistake, reinforce the negative situation, shout angrily? Acknowledge their effort, guide them to the lesson, support them to growing stronger? Your reaction determines who you are, and whether you're learning from the mistake too.