The feeling of being in the right place at the right time doesn't come around all that often for most people, even those actually focused on personal development. So we're stumbling along until things become clear, till they make sense. We keep going forwards or backwards, however, looking for the next big thing. In the meantime we're stuck feeling our feelings, thinking out thoughts and going about our routines.

You can call it autopilot, habit, unconsciousness, but there's this way we go about doing things most of the time that's easy and comfortable. We like things to carry on being this way, and so we fight off change, we reject criticism and try our hardest to prevent the loss of what we know. Change comes anyway and you're left thinking wtf was that all about, then settle into our new routine or go back to our old one.

Now what happens with personal development and coaching, is that you're made aware of the fact that all this is happening. Usually we're confronted with a change that's beyond what we're capable of, before we look for help or guidance. You might not always need to talk about your feelings with a psychologist, but instead you really just want to come to terms with where you're at now and figure out how to move forward from there. That's what a coach does. No mess, no fuss, just a whole bunch of reality, in an empowering way.

Facing personal development head on means recognising that change is inevitable, so why the hell not make the most of it! If you're faced with a choice and given the opportunity to carry on in the same way, or evolve into something greater, who wouldn't want to take on the challenge? Often when we're held back by fear, we've got to learn to work with it instead of against it. Use fear to fuel your fire... do something because you're afraid!

The richest rewards come from the darkest places...